LET'S BLOG ABOUT IT

For a long time, I believed things simply because I didn’t yet have the knowledge to question them. They were presented clearly and confidently by people who appeared credible. That did not make them true. Truth is rarely obvious at first. Often it is subtle, inconvenient, or even uncomfortable. It waits for you to have enough context to see it clearly.

For women, especially, visibility has never been safe. Historically, being seen has led to backlash, punishment, and violence. When attention consistently results in harm, the nervous system adjusts. Avoidance becomes protection, and silence becomes strategy. Over time, this fear becomes a wound. And like all wounds, it carries history, intelligence, and the possibility of healing.

There is a particular kind of honesty that comes with realizing how our self-esteem shapes the choices we make. The relationships we tolerate. The ways we learn to adapt to unkindness.

I started this blog again to write about the science behind transformation. In the fall, I was deep in research, hyper-focused on the technical language of change.

When people talk about growth, they often assume you have the luxury of time to use your imagination. But imagination requires space. When your days are packed wall to wall with logistics, responsibility, and exhaustion, there is no room to dream about what could be different. There is only getting through the day.

Most people know they want something to change long before they know what to do about it. The wanting comes first. The clarity comes much later. In between is a stretch of time that feels restless, confusing, and often discouraging. You can sense that your current way of living no longer fits, but you don’t yet have a clear alternative.